Handling Major Change – 9 Tips to Try

time-for-a-change scrabble imageMy mom always points out that the one steady thing in life is change. And even though she is right, always, it doesn’t mean we get used to it or fully embrace it. Here are 9 tips for dealing with major changes in your life and emerging a better man or woman for it. 


1 Understand anxiety can be from good change


Often when folks experience a fantastic life change, like having a baby or graduating, they still experience a large amount of stress and anxiety– as well as fear. Positive change can create stress just like not-so-positive change. Tension is just your body’s way of responding to change. It’s alright to feel anxious even when something fantastic has taken place– as a matter of fact, it’s common. If you’ve just had an infant, consult with your physician about possibly experiencing postpartum depression.



2 Attempt to eat as healthy as possible.

When change happens, a great deal of us usually grab carbohydrates– bread, muffins, pie, etc. Because eating carbs boosts serotonin– a brain chemical that may be somewhat depleted when you are undergoing change (stress), this may be. It’s okay to calm yourself with convenience foods– in small amounts. One way to monitor what you are consuming is to write it down. You can either do this in a notebook or use an app. It makes you take a step back and think about whether you want to eat that second muffin or not when you see what you are eating. (In case you have a history of eating disorders, it is not advised that you write down what you are eating.) Notice if you are having an increased use of alcohol or other substances– your addictions can sneak up on you when you are under stress


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3 Maintain your normal routine as much as possible.

The more transformation that is occurring, the more crucial it is to stay with your normal routine– as much as possible. Having some aspects that stay the same, like walking the pooch every day at 8:00, offers us an anchor. A foothold is a reminder that some aspects are still the same, and it provides your mind with a small piece of a balance. Occasionally when you are undergoing a great deal of change it helps to jot down your routine and check it off as you proceed. It’s one less point for your brain to need to keep inside.

4 Physical activity.

Continuing frequent exercise may be a part of the “maintain your normal routine” suggestion. If physical exercise is not presently part of your day-to-day routine, try incorporating it. Exercising 2 to 3 times a week has been found to substantially decrease signs of depression (Barclay, et al. 2014.) Even just walking around the neighborhood can help you feel much better. (Consult your doctor before beginning an exercise program.) Keep in mind, you don’t have to feel like getting some workout– just venture out there and move. You’ll find that often times your motivation will jolt in while you are engaged..

5 Make a note of the positives that have stemmed from this change.

Maybe because of this change in your life you have gotten to know new people. Just maybe you began engaging in healthier patterns. Or you ended up being more politically involved? Possibly emerged as more self-assured? What if the change helped you focus on what is essential in your life? Change provides us with the chance to grow– and it is necessary to acknowledge how things have progressed because of this.

6 Find assistance.

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Nobody makes it through life on their own. It is okay to ask for help– it is a sign that you know yourself well enough to recognize you need some support. Consider your trusted friends or family members. The odds are they enjoy helping when you need them to watch your kids while you run some errands, or if you just need some alone time. There might be a neighbour that has asked you for help previously– now maybe you can ask them for assistance. Apps like NextDoor have been helpful for connecting neighbours. If you are contemplating hurting yourself or killing yourself, please contact the South African Depression and Anxiety Group  on 0800 12 13 14.


7 Become hands-on.

Being proactive means taking charge and working to prevent. This implies you determine what actions you have to take before something transpires. Being responsive means you wait until something has happened and after that you do something about it. Being proactive means you make an appointment with your physician for a physical, because you know something difficult is coming up and you intend to ensure you remain in good health. It means becoming involved with groups that help you realize that you can make a positive impact on the world


8 Pull back from social media.

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When you are undergoing change, you may be attracted towards social media– possibly publishing to your friends on Facebook what is going on in your life. Make sure you are in a calm state when you post something– and also keep in mind that whatever you post never really disappears. If you are comparing your life to your friends’ lives on social media, remember that most people post only the “highlight reel” of their lives– not the stressful moments. This can give you a manipulated view that everyone else’s lives are going just great. Everyone has struggles they are dealing with– it’s just different struggles with different people. If you are starting to compare your life to others, step away from social media.


9 Give yourself a break.

In a time of change, you may really feel a little out of control. You may believe that you are not meeting your expectations for yourself. Keep in mind that you are permitted to achieve below what is humanly achievable. Nothing says you need to operate at One Hundred Percent at all times. People make mistakes– it is among the great aspects of being human. It’s profiting from the blunders that really counts. And consider it this way: there are no errors, only good experiences for later on. Make a point to integrate more giggling and entertainment into your life. Laughing boosts dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins which makes you feel good… Laughing also reduces cortisol a stress-producing hormone in your body. Laughter can really be a portion of the most effective medication.